Does Your Perfect Soulmate Really Exist?

Does Your Perfect Soulmate Really Exist?

REFLECTIONS ON THE SEARCH

I have a real difficulty with the issue of 'The One' at the moment because I'm hearing the phrase referred to all day, but I think it really has gotten out of control. I think they are mostly in secret, guilty of looking at the perfect person for a relationship and the recognition of something like the second best is simply not acceptable at all. In fact, probably most people that we find ourselves without a second glance. No chemicals! That is not acceptable to us anyway - that's because we are special. The problem with this contemporary perspective is based on an unrealistic set of expectations to moving targets during the day (or two -.! Ed).

 
Namely, we have 30 years and has had two or three previous relationships. You have a semi decent race is given a reasonable lifestyle. You have a good set of friends, financial independence and given a wide and varied tastes and ideals that are sophisticated and intelligent. You know who you are and you know I might be going. Rather large. So the problem is that you are looking for 'The One'. You are looking for the person who will complement your lifestyle, your vision will be able to contribute to their lifestyle, but never asked to compromise.
 
You are in charge of their own destiny and not have to compromise, why. After all if one, everything will fall into place perfectly. As you are in for an unpleasant surprise to my friends. Life is not perfect changes, only in the news and see. No marriage is perfect as the happily married 40 years that are related. Everything in life needs work, and everything in life comes with the catches and locks. There are a few key words again - "known" and "commitment".
 
The problem is that current generations are growing expectations that far exceed availability. Looking for the perfect man or woman looking for someone that "one" and yet, surprisingly, seem to be so selective that seem very overrated their own "statement of wealth." Who says you have much to offer. Who says people are very nice that someone deserves. I constantly find "complement" the word of the profiles of my own dating sites. Women in particular are adept at indicating that they are very delicious, can be difficult, do not suffer fools and are very specific that they are seeking.
 
Ask people to describe their ideal partner and fight them. I've seen a lot of pseudo-spiritual comments lately, especially women to describe their ideal partner. Think of phrases such as "soul mate" and how often are used (see below). It's almost like a brain game that is not defined in physical terms, allowing some kind of "communion" or "union" between "two souls" in an intellectual and emotional level. Friends have said that many women must have a deeper "connection" or "chemistry" between them and their partners. Nothing definite there then.
 
I asked a friend how you define "The One" and this is what he said:
"It's a meeting of two minds, bodies and souls, in which two people are attracted to each other auras found the textbook companion Everlasting Love -. -. Our spiritual ideal, and women, can be kneaded like dough and can we have yet to be cast as female desire is necessary and desired. We love the eyes of men, because the eyes are the gateway to your soul, drilling and intuitive. "
 
This statement is very interesting not only for spiritual notions expressed in the definition of a woman from The One, but also because it establishes that women still have a desire to please men. This leads me to think, then, that a man is still expected to act like a man.
 
Another girl expressed this view on the One:  "Of course, they have more to lose and we insist on" one. "Well, you know about the biological clock, so we have to invest time to find a man to see if it's worth our time."
 
Ah, now things are becoming clearer. Women are looking for the perfect man to make a commitment to the cause they want a family and not want to risk being wrong. This makes much more sense. To this end I admire the spiritual quest of a party and can see their fundamental existence can be critical. Well, except for one thing:
 
You may remember in a previous article I have tried this spiritual connection and its importance out. Just put me in a well-known Internet dating agency and posted my profile with my picture. My profile was genuine and kind and loving and kind, but added that there was a lot of soul mates and associations, etc. I am a normal guy looks great and has a couple of games and emails and messages along the road. After a few months changed the profile photo to my account to one of a male catalog model. In the space of a week had about 180 e-mail, offers of a date and the letters with some women I almost shot. What horrified me though was that some of these women had already seen this profile with a different photo and ignored, and most importantly the women who contacted spoke of how "spiritually equal," were and what appeared to be " perfect soul mate. "
 
They did not know me, I had never spoken to me, but I thought it was ideal. These young people had clearly read my profile, but the fact is that more than 180 women were influenced simply by how I looked. It had nothing to do with my personality and outlook or any of the details about me at all. But to them I was the only one. It feels good to be discovered does! So, I have concluded that many women are, in fact, finding "The One". They are looking for that spiritual connection - the time they are gorgeous and handsome and have a great career.
 
It is unfair to be too critical of this state of things, because I think the concept of 'The One' has been borne by a modern liberation of women where they are now able to choose exactly what they want to be with her. No woman has to "do" more and society has evolved and with good reason. The main argument I have is that is as ruthless as superficial and misguided men have ever been charged in the past. Women want a handsome man who is fit. They want someone who is fun and sexy and a good career and I want a man who understands the commitment and responsibility. But if, in fact, we find that is another matter.
Often, the bride said, "I'm happy just to accept second best." What is the best? The second best seems to be all that is not perfect in the eyes of the beholder. Maybe that means I'm the second best and if so maybe I should start to feel that they have problems! A friend told me this week he was willing to lower their gaze ever so slightly as it ages, but generally not lower their standards. 

Again linked to 'The One', which summarizes all the characteristics of the ideal man. By establishing a precedent of the rules in dating, people have created to be constantly disappointed. It is unlikely in the short term than those who match your list, because no matter how big the date could be someone who expected to be even better, which is "the One". Contacts is a chemical reaction. It is not about checklists, not ideas about the team now, is not predetermined by the people. Chemistry is communication and understanding and physical and emotional snapshots. 

The truth is that we are beginning to have a dangerous generation loneliness of women in their thirties with some partners, and absolutely no willingness to compromise. You can blame men all you want, but the pursuit of perfection does not guarantee happiness. The last question is how these generations of maturation at the lack of children in their first 40 years after he left things too late. How will you deal with a half life of just being. How will they deal with the fact that her looks are fading and their attitudes have simply left isolated and unmarried. What's going to put in my opinion is a generation of potentially problematic in their 40 and 50 years who are still single and have lost their sense of reality about relationships.