Are You a Dating Enigma, Or Available As Well?

Are You a Dating Enigma, Or Available As Well?

REMAINS ELUSIVE AND DISTANT CAN HELP YOUR LOVE LIFE

Here's a fact most people are available. Also available as data. Think about the things we aspire to, good clothes, expensive Italian car perhaps, Tiffany jewelry, Rolex watches, a yacht of 100 feet. Whatever. The fact is that the things you want or desire in life are often the least accessible. Things are worth because they are rare. Rarity is the key ingredient. The least we can get something, we want that after the initial need or feeling of desire is created. 

The unattainable is oh so sweet, catwalk supermodel to Brad Pitt, we can dream, but we can not have. And that, my friends, is the point of this article. The day we stop being so low, they are no longer at the end of a phone is no longer available 24 hours a day and start being elusive. Why? Because for the reasons I said. Create the need and then remove it and the desire factor goes through the roof. 

The problem with following this brief piece of advice is that it is extremely difficult for mere mortals to do. When we meet someone we really like to stop playing, we want to be with them, we want to see 24 hours a day, our waking hours are devoted to the next meeting. The problem is that our time can not see things the same way and soon the boredom can set adentroPeor, however, be too low, reducing our own appeal, have become much less rare, far more common and sadly far less desirable . 

So you have to do is train ourselves to be cryptic and difficult to reach and stop being so available. A friend of mine worked in a bar in New York and always attracts girls, but never seemed to get anywhere after a couple of dates. He is a good guy and probably one of the most trusted men I ever met. I wanted to know why women seemed to lose interest in him and stopped calling so did an experiment. He was asked to call the woman who had gone out, maybe, but after stopping the persecution of women. Leave messages, without answer, if we did was a little later. So it would pop into the bar to see him, but he never offered to make new arrangements first though to keep interest levels and very soon discovered that the girls were chasing! The point here is that he had become elusive, had an air of mystery now, was someone the girls wanted to know. It was achallenge. 

I have thought many times I've left it too available. I had to learn the hard way. I met a beautiful girl while working in New York and appeared to be perfect from the moment we met, so much so I pulled the dating rules out the window and spent almost two full weeks together. Then, suddenly stopped. And I wanted to call things. The fact was that I had done too much for her, I was there when I wanted, I had altered my routine too soon, too fast and too much to make things work. Of course that was available for all the right reasons, but had an effect quite wrong. I lost the girl. 

So when you meet someone you like, by all means get started down the path that data, but be sure to keep regular hours and are not available every day. If you are free two-day weekend is for you is the date at first. If you are free Tuesday and Thursday for dinner, they know what is best for you. If they suggest Tuesday that suggested on Thursday. Do not call rate (which is very hard to do) and not always answer the phone (yes, really) and make sure you can take a lot of independent activity information back to the date they are. 

For all the crazy forced separation, the date is even more spectacular. For many of you reading this, you think I'm crazy or have doubts about trying to do this and I'm sure many of you will not listen when you meet the person who is insane. The fact is, the less available they are more likely to succeed in getting her perfect man. Create a demand, become the diamond and then get to be as difficult as jewelers go, but keep the factor of desire - that's how it works.