Dating Essentials: Making Eye Contact

Dating Essentials: Making Eye Contact

LOOK ‘EM IN THE EYE WHEN YOU ARE IN SEARCH OF LOVE

Here is a fact, people do not make eye contact. That it shall and be seen, but look away when someone looks back. Look at the passengers on a subway platform or in a subway car. They look at anything except each other. They use devices such as advertisements, books and documents so you do not see. Why? Because when we look at each other and make eye contact something very personal happens. It is as if we could see each other and see what they are thinking. It is the opening to a conversation. As for strangers is a personal presentation. 

Well, I'm glad that we have to leave the road. Because if we accept that we must look to strangers to ourselves, then why can not we look for people who find it attractive to the eyes? Well, the answer may lie in the fact that we are afraid of the future that we will see the disapproval in the eyes and will be rejected. Being rejected affects our self-confidence not to look at levels that protect us. 

We can look from afar, not even look and appreciate, as long as they are not looking back. We can see the legs, hair, breasts, chest, ass, something we can see, but then will store the image can be seen instantly without getting caught. The moment you look back, look at that, and allow any form of thanks in return. This leads us to see and re-watched the ritual setting that is essential to show interest. 

Generally, a person such as a bar, see someone they like and check them out. Eye contact is made for a short time and is followed by the look. It looks in every direction until, finally, if the feeling is mutual on both sides, the eye is kept longer and this is followed by a friendly smile. Now, at this stage, approval is done through eye contact, it's time to do something about it. But in most cases, nothing happens. Why? Because the fear factor and the man is installed (usually men) feel intimidated by what the right approach, as it is in a group. A confident man looking back and then move in. 

The problem is that man thinks he has will get confused and eye contact as accidental and mental excuses for this and then make an approximation. And the moment was lost. It can be seen once again as it moves to another destination with friends. But unless they meet again in different circumstances that have been lost because it was like having no desire to live as long as you are a shy person. No. 

Therefore, men and women have to start learning to look at others and know how to correctly interpret the eye contact. First you need to start looking in the eyes of the people and get used to it. His appearance is not good ground oats and then continue sly look when you are viewing. Look at the people and learn to smile. Only you can make new friends, but who cares, get used to looking and being looked at. Being shy is not the way to a village in the heart. Think of the expression "love at first sight" It'll never happen if you do not get caught looking. As a man, should look to the breasts of a woman and get caught. Of course it should. Goes too far, but if someone looks good, glad of his beloved, if only momentary and fleeting. 

An old friend once told me that it was difficult to look at men as it was unique in that a former boyfriend had been so possessive I had ever seen on the ground when they were away. It took many years to learn to make eye contact with strangers again. So you can appreciate the difficulties with eye contact. Shyness is a debilitating factor. Many of us are shy by degrees and make eye contact is not always easy, but start practicing. There are many people who had fans, but do not know, because you never saw. 

Another curious phenomenon is common in anxiety when the people watching, I think it's an aggressive attitude, not a friendly introduction. Men are often accused of looking at each other followed by the aggressive opener "What are you looking for!" Men with low self-esteem can see women on the same line of thought that if a woman is seeing, there must be something wrong. Women do not feel safe in the same way by making eye contact with them men. 

An interesting scenario occurred in the summer of 1996 when I was in a bar in Manchester, England, and a gay friend of mine I immediately noticed that the waiters were gay. I wanted to know the secret. Well, he said that if you meet a girl you like, who held his gaze for a second or two, if you were talking to a man. That gay men look at it the same way you look at a woman, he said, and then the waiter will look similar gay by holding his gaze. I have tried many times since then to prove his point, and really seems to work. What we learn from this is that eye contact is an indication of how the immediate attraction. 

Then of course we have the physiological aspects of contact with eyes. Pupil dilation and eye tracking. On a date that goes well look into the eyes of your date carefully. If he or she is attracted to you, your eyes dilate (become larger) and kept her eyes as long as possible. But in the instant attraction scenario with a stranger across a crowded room, remember that the speed with occasional glances at the initial interest it has to act accordingly. 

In short, it is customary to look at people and make deliberate eye contact with people you like. Try that in a store or wherever foreigners are found. Try to keep the look of someone with a nice smile and see the reaction. You will be surprised. I repeat once more for the same key ingredient in dating. Trust. Eye contact and trust means the more you practice the better it goes. Finally, always remember that not everyone you meet is attracted to you, so expect a few looks that will never be returned. Making eye contact is very funny.