A broken heart can be devastating to your life. The initial breakup and knowing that the person that you love so much has dumped you can have a ripple effect that can cause you to lose weeks if not months of your life as you pick up the pieces of your broken heart and attempt to get back to a normal life once again. The job might seem overwhelming at first and as depression sets in, you might not feel like doing much of anything, especially dealing with your broken heart.
Whether you hope to get back together with your ex or if you have decided to move on, dealing with your broken heart is just a necessity. You can put it off or you can deal with it now. In the end though, you're going to feel better and your life will get back to normal more quickly if you do use some of these coping mechanisms to push past the pain and get back to feeling better about yourself as soon as possible. Wallowing in self pity isn't going to help you get your ex back quicker but healing your broken heart will help you and help you get your ex back more quickly.
There are constructive ways of doing this and destructive ways of dealing with your break up. Gaining closeure or venting these emotions by breaking things or yelling at your ex might feel good in the moment but they are not constructive ways of dealing with the pain. Confronting your ex with anger or hate is just going to come back to bite you in the long run even if you decide to move on. On the other hand, if you don't feel somewhat angry for being dumped then there is something wrong. Once you start to feel upset towards your ex then you should know that you're on the right path to healing your broken heart.
Realize that no matter what you did or the excuse that your ex used to break up with you, if your ex really loved you, they would forgive you. Once they told you that they loved you. Where did that love go? You didn't really deserve to be dumped. You deserve to be loved. You deserve the attention that you want and need. Feel yourself start to get a little angry. Feel your self-confidence begin to return as you feel love and respect for yourself and some anger towards your ex for not giving you that second chance and not loving you the way that you deserve to be loved.
One good exercise that you can use to heal your broken heart is to thoroughly dissect your ex's personality. If you have a difficult time being critical of your ex and you have this picture in your mind that your ex was perfect or didn't do anything wrong then you are mistaken. We all have flaws and some of us are extremely flawed. You might still be in love with your ex and that's fine but realize that your ex isn't perfect and that your ex does still have flaws. Now, take some time and actually write a list of your ex's flaws to help yourself to see these flaws and thus heal your broken heart even more.
If you feel stuck, think about little things that your ex did wrong like little comments that they made that really hurt you or maybe a time when you didn't feel so important in their life. Think of a time when you did something special for them and the kindness was not returned. Look at some pictures of your ex and realize that there are other people out there more attractive than your ex that are lonely who would have been happy to get the attention and love that you gave so freely to your ex. Be ruthless in your critcism of your ex and dig deep to discover everything that ever bothered you about your ex and your relationship. Your ex is a human being, no different than you with all the same faults and shortcomings.
Right now you are probably still very much in love with your ex. That's fine. It's actually a good thing. In the end, the choice will be up to you whether you want to get back together with your ex and these exercises will help you to regain your self confidence and relax a little bit about actually getting your ex back. But in the meantime, you need to understand that your ex isn't the last person on the face of the planet. There are other people out there just as nice as your ex who would be happy to get to know you and who might even fall in love with you. Most of us are attracted to a person physically before anything else so spend a little time at least looking at what's out there. It really will help you heal your broken heart.
Even though you are going to feel weird about this, take a look at some online dating websites. Just surf some of the profiles of people that are looking for someone and imagine what it would be like to have one of these people fall in love with you. You might have a bit of a knee-jerk reaction and say that you don't want anyone other than your ex and that's fine but go take a look anyway. These sites are full of people desperate to meet someone nice who is loving and caring and serious about a relationship. Remember that you do have options and remove some of the power that your ex has over you right now.
It really isn't important right now whether you hope to get back together with your ex or not. The important thing is healing your heart and getting back to being you again. You need to smile and laugh and regain your composure. Life is about living and the sooner you work through some of these emotions the sooner you will begin to feel better about yourself. The sooner you start loving yourself the sooner someone else is going to love you back. It doesn't matter if that someone is your ex or someone that you haven't even met yet.
Whether you hope to get back together with your ex or if you have decided to move on, dealing with your broken heart is just a necessity. You can put it off or you can deal with it now. In the end though, you're going to feel better and your life will get back to normal more quickly if you do use some of these coping mechanisms to push past the pain and get back to feeling better about yourself as soon as possible. Wallowing in self pity isn't going to help you get your ex back quicker but healing your broken heart will help you and help you get your ex back more quickly.
There are constructive ways of doing this and destructive ways of dealing with your break up. Gaining closeure or venting these emotions by breaking things or yelling at your ex might feel good in the moment but they are not constructive ways of dealing with the pain. Confronting your ex with anger or hate is just going to come back to bite you in the long run even if you decide to move on. On the other hand, if you don't feel somewhat angry for being dumped then there is something wrong. Once you start to feel upset towards your ex then you should know that you're on the right path to healing your broken heart.
Realize that no matter what you did or the excuse that your ex used to break up with you, if your ex really loved you, they would forgive you. Once they told you that they loved you. Where did that love go? You didn't really deserve to be dumped. You deserve to be loved. You deserve the attention that you want and need. Feel yourself start to get a little angry. Feel your self-confidence begin to return as you feel love and respect for yourself and some anger towards your ex for not giving you that second chance and not loving you the way that you deserve to be loved.
One good exercise that you can use to heal your broken heart is to thoroughly dissect your ex's personality. If you have a difficult time being critical of your ex and you have this picture in your mind that your ex was perfect or didn't do anything wrong then you are mistaken. We all have flaws and some of us are extremely flawed. You might still be in love with your ex and that's fine but realize that your ex isn't perfect and that your ex does still have flaws. Now, take some time and actually write a list of your ex's flaws to help yourself to see these flaws and thus heal your broken heart even more.
If you feel stuck, think about little things that your ex did wrong like little comments that they made that really hurt you or maybe a time when you didn't feel so important in their life. Think of a time when you did something special for them and the kindness was not returned. Look at some pictures of your ex and realize that there are other people out there more attractive than your ex that are lonely who would have been happy to get the attention and love that you gave so freely to your ex. Be ruthless in your critcism of your ex and dig deep to discover everything that ever bothered you about your ex and your relationship. Your ex is a human being, no different than you with all the same faults and shortcomings.
Right now you are probably still very much in love with your ex. That's fine. It's actually a good thing. In the end, the choice will be up to you whether you want to get back together with your ex and these exercises will help you to regain your self confidence and relax a little bit about actually getting your ex back. But in the meantime, you need to understand that your ex isn't the last person on the face of the planet. There are other people out there just as nice as your ex who would be happy to get to know you and who might even fall in love with you. Most of us are attracted to a person physically before anything else so spend a little time at least looking at what's out there. It really will help you heal your broken heart.
Even though you are going to feel weird about this, take a look at some online dating websites. Just surf some of the profiles of people that are looking for someone and imagine what it would be like to have one of these people fall in love with you. You might have a bit of a knee-jerk reaction and say that you don't want anyone other than your ex and that's fine but go take a look anyway. These sites are full of people desperate to meet someone nice who is loving and caring and serious about a relationship. Remember that you do have options and remove some of the power that your ex has over you right now.
It really isn't important right now whether you hope to get back together with your ex or not. The important thing is healing your heart and getting back to being you again. You need to smile and laugh and regain your composure. Life is about living and the sooner you work through some of these emotions the sooner you will begin to feel better about yourself. The sooner you start loving yourself the sooner someone else is going to love you back. It doesn't matter if that someone is your ex or someone that you haven't even met yet.
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