Even the closest couples these days (with the rare, happy exceptions of those who work together) spend more awake time apart in their separate careers than they do together. With the exception of couples who work in the same office, people precariously balance the Jekyll and Hyde side of their personalities - or to be more precise, the lives they lead in the workplace and the lives they lead at the pub, at home, anywhere else outside of work.
It's little wonder why everybody seems to like the concept of the company party - it is a showcase of innuendo, a sneak preview at the secret lives of the people at work. All too often we see, whether by design or inadvertently, what goes on behind closed doors - the seemingly humorless manager is actually a cuckold whose wife keeps nagging him about that damned football he keeps watching every Monday night, while the diminutive, pedantic-looking file clerk with eyeglasses is actually a ravenous tigress underneath the sheets, as per her hunky beau you met just the other night.
By sharing your everyday activities, some of which may even be mundane, you can nonetheless develop a special closeness with your partner. We often assume that our significant others aren't really interested in our work life. To the contrary, when we love someone, we want to be part of their everything. We want to be like that fugacious presence that observes every on-going at the office, every political rumination, every bit of innuendo and rumour floating around in the workplace. We want to imbibe the juiciest bits of gossip that proliferate water cooler discussions, we want to see how their co-workers look like and we want to see how they interact with people or react to certain stimuli in and around the office.
What you might want to do would be to devote thirty minutes every day to share what happened whilst at work. Pass along jokes and anything unusual that occurred. If your office protocol allows you to use email for personal use, then hesitate not to forward that amusing convo you had with your work mate, because it just might make his or her day and make him/her feel as if they were indeed at the office with you.
Now if meetings are part and parcel of your daily schedule, print out a copy of your work schedule and discuss that schedule briefly with your spouse, replete with descriptions of each meeting. You may be taking calls as part of your livelihood, and if you do, you want to notate each call that brought you to tears of rollicking laughter...or on the other side of the lachrymose fence, dramatic calls where you couldn't help but feel sorry for the customer. And of course, if you work a blue-collar job on the production floor, always be alert because you just might home in on some interesting conversation to share.
It is very common that when we talk about work to our spouse, we always focus on the negative aspects, such as that incompetent weirdo who picks his nose and keeps talking about guns, or that supervisor who can give Ozzy Osbourne and his family a run for their money with the profanity he uses when not in the best of moods. It might make even more sense to see the work-related glass as half-full rather than half-empty. Positivity can go a long, long way, especially if you consider that it could totally reprogramme your thinking about how the relationship is going - instead of going on divergent paths and focusing on each other's particular activities as the relationship drifts apart, you just might be brought closer to one another.
Even if you or your partner may be disabled, retired or working from home, that still doesn't mean something brilliant didn't happen in the past few hours - whilst apart, you want to keep those lines of communication open and show interest in each other's day-to-day lives!
It's little wonder why everybody seems to like the concept of the company party - it is a showcase of innuendo, a sneak preview at the secret lives of the people at work. All too often we see, whether by design or inadvertently, what goes on behind closed doors - the seemingly humorless manager is actually a cuckold whose wife keeps nagging him about that damned football he keeps watching every Monday night, while the diminutive, pedantic-looking file clerk with eyeglasses is actually a ravenous tigress underneath the sheets, as per her hunky beau you met just the other night.
By sharing your everyday activities, some of which may even be mundane, you can nonetheless develop a special closeness with your partner. We often assume that our significant others aren't really interested in our work life. To the contrary, when we love someone, we want to be part of their everything. We want to be like that fugacious presence that observes every on-going at the office, every political rumination, every bit of innuendo and rumour floating around in the workplace. We want to imbibe the juiciest bits of gossip that proliferate water cooler discussions, we want to see how their co-workers look like and we want to see how they interact with people or react to certain stimuli in and around the office.
What you might want to do would be to devote thirty minutes every day to share what happened whilst at work. Pass along jokes and anything unusual that occurred. If your office protocol allows you to use email for personal use, then hesitate not to forward that amusing convo you had with your work mate, because it just might make his or her day and make him/her feel as if they were indeed at the office with you.
Now if meetings are part and parcel of your daily schedule, print out a copy of your work schedule and discuss that schedule briefly with your spouse, replete with descriptions of each meeting. You may be taking calls as part of your livelihood, and if you do, you want to notate each call that brought you to tears of rollicking laughter...or on the other side of the lachrymose fence, dramatic calls where you couldn't help but feel sorry for the customer. And of course, if you work a blue-collar job on the production floor, always be alert because you just might home in on some interesting conversation to share.
It is very common that when we talk about work to our spouse, we always focus on the negative aspects, such as that incompetent weirdo who picks his nose and keeps talking about guns, or that supervisor who can give Ozzy Osbourne and his family a run for their money with the profanity he uses when not in the best of moods. It might make even more sense to see the work-related glass as half-full rather than half-empty. Positivity can go a long, long way, especially if you consider that it could totally reprogramme your thinking about how the relationship is going - instead of going on divergent paths and focusing on each other's particular activities as the relationship drifts apart, you just might be brought closer to one another.
Even if you or your partner may be disabled, retired or working from home, that still doesn't mean something brilliant didn't happen in the past few hours - whilst apart, you want to keep those lines of communication open and show interest in each other's day-to-day lives!
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