Are you at a loss for why every guy that you fall in love with either avoids you like the plague or decides that you're just friend material? Do you wish that you knew why every guy that is good and decent becomes turned off by you? Are you doing something wrong? Are you cursed? Whatever the real reason is you just want to put a stop to it and actually get the guy for once.
We try to laugh about it but it's getting old. You just want to get a boyfriend and not be alone anymore. You want the guy to choose you over some other girl. It's always the same. Right about the time that you are starting to think that things might work out, you can sense the storm is brewing. You almost resign yourself to it these days. As soon as you start to feel that you're falling for him you can be sure that he'll break the news to you that he has met someone and they have decided to be exclusive or he wants to sit you down and tell you what a great friend he thinks you are.
While the real reason why this happens might be difficult to handle, it's not the end of the world and you can do something about it. Your problem is that you're too nice. Now, don't go running off deciding that you're suddenly going to become selfish like all the other girls out there. For you, it's probably not possible anyhow. While selfish girls might get more attention from guys because they're more of a challenge, you've probably noticed that guys tend not to stay with girls like this. They get sick of their behavior and soon the girl is on to the next guy that thinks that she's pretty or who wants to try to change her.
You are the complete opposite of selfish. You often find guys that are nice and kind. You begin to get to know each other and before you know it you're falling in love. You devote yourself to getting to know him and you put your heart and soul into this relationship. You listen to him and enjoy spending time with him. You don't complain when he needs to change plans or if he forgets to call. You aren't clingy or rude to him like other girls are. You're happy and you want him to be happy so you give him the benefit of the doubt at every corner.
While you might think that everybody likes someone who is nice there is a good chance that you take it a little too far. When you decide that you're really into this guy you might go a bit over the edge and change. You might become his girlfriend before he's really ready for it. Even though you're not really doing anything wrong, he will feel the shift and it might freak him out. This subtle shift can put you in the friend zone pretty quickly and he might even be baffled by how his feelings have changed. His instincts will tell him that things have changed and, like an animal that subconsciously knows when it's about to fall into a trap, he will react to this change.
As your next relationship starts to unfold, understand that although you're just trying to be nice and to show your feelings for the man of your dreams, this might be a little too much for him to handle even if you haven't said the word "boyfriend" or "girlfriend". Keep on being yourself and let things progress from being friends towards more intimate things. Remember that the basis of the best and longest lasting relationships is true friendship. Focus on that and the hand holding and hugging and kissing will come in due time. Let him decide for himself that you are the one that he wants by his side always and you are the one that he wants to be his girlfriend.
We try to laugh about it but it's getting old. You just want to get a boyfriend and not be alone anymore. You want the guy to choose you over some other girl. It's always the same. Right about the time that you are starting to think that things might work out, you can sense the storm is brewing. You almost resign yourself to it these days. As soon as you start to feel that you're falling for him you can be sure that he'll break the news to you that he has met someone and they have decided to be exclusive or he wants to sit you down and tell you what a great friend he thinks you are.
While the real reason why this happens might be difficult to handle, it's not the end of the world and you can do something about it. Your problem is that you're too nice. Now, don't go running off deciding that you're suddenly going to become selfish like all the other girls out there. For you, it's probably not possible anyhow. While selfish girls might get more attention from guys because they're more of a challenge, you've probably noticed that guys tend not to stay with girls like this. They get sick of their behavior and soon the girl is on to the next guy that thinks that she's pretty or who wants to try to change her.
You are the complete opposite of selfish. You often find guys that are nice and kind. You begin to get to know each other and before you know it you're falling in love. You devote yourself to getting to know him and you put your heart and soul into this relationship. You listen to him and enjoy spending time with him. You don't complain when he needs to change plans or if he forgets to call. You aren't clingy or rude to him like other girls are. You're happy and you want him to be happy so you give him the benefit of the doubt at every corner.
While you might think that everybody likes someone who is nice there is a good chance that you take it a little too far. When you decide that you're really into this guy you might go a bit over the edge and change. You might become his girlfriend before he's really ready for it. Even though you're not really doing anything wrong, he will feel the shift and it might freak him out. This subtle shift can put you in the friend zone pretty quickly and he might even be baffled by how his feelings have changed. His instincts will tell him that things have changed and, like an animal that subconsciously knows when it's about to fall into a trap, he will react to this change.
As your next relationship starts to unfold, understand that although you're just trying to be nice and to show your feelings for the man of your dreams, this might be a little too much for him to handle even if you haven't said the word "boyfriend" or "girlfriend". Keep on being yourself and let things progress from being friends towards more intimate things. Remember that the basis of the best and longest lasting relationships is true friendship. Focus on that and the hand holding and hugging and kissing will come in due time. Let him decide for himself that you are the one that he wants by his side always and you are the one that he wants to be his girlfriend.
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