I know exactly what you're going through. I've been where you are and I remember all too clearly the pain that I felt in the days and weeks after my breakup. Feelings of hopelessness, depression and anxiety come and go. But what can you do to get back to living life or at least lessen those awful feelings after your breakup? What can you do when you've lost hope completely in trying to win your ex back?
While other people may encourage you to simply move on and forget about your ex, I encourage you to keep your dream alive. If getting back together with your boyfriend or your husband is honestly what is going to make you happy then that is what you need to do. If the love that you once felt together was something unique and special then you shouldn't just throw it away. Don't' quit. Don't give up. You simply can't replace someone you love with any other human being.
The problem at hand though is what can you do right now to help to get you through the day? What can you do when you feel like your heart has been torn from your chest because you're just having a bad day or something has changed that makes you feel like you'll never be able to get your ex back? While being a little sad because you're away from the one you love is normal, what can you do when this grief starts to get in the way of you living your life and it becomes a problem?
Take a deep breath and acknowledge these feelings. Understand that these emotions and feelings are only there to try to help you. Our emotions either motivate us to do things or not do things based upon pain and pleasure. If we think that something is going to cause us pain then it's going to be difficult to motivate ourselves to do anything that will bring us closer to that pain. To overcome that pain avoidance reflex, we need to associate those same thoughts with pleasure.
For instance, you are depressed because you do want to get back together with your ex but you know that there might be a lot of pain associated with getting him back. He could reject you again. It might take a long time to get him back during which time you might have to deal with knowing that the man that you love is with someone else or dealing with his indifference. But if you can spend some time reliving the pleasant feelings about your relationship and trying to keep a positive attitude they you stand a very good chance of weathering the storm until he does come back to you.
Even though you're still going to have moments when you're going to want to cry, taking a few minutes to take a cleansing breath and stepping outside of yourself to realistically look at the situation can ease your emotional pain. Don't be afraid to dream. Don't give up on your dream or ever tell yourself that it's impossible. Ignore those that say that you'll never be able to get your ex back because this simply is not true. Know without a doubt that if you are patient enough and persistent enough and if you take care of yourself first that you really can have that relationship that you dream about with your ex. Live every moment as if your ex is going to knock on your door or come walking around the corner and one day it will come true. These methods work for greater things than simply getting your ex back. What makes you think that having the person who once loved you fall for you again is so impossible?
While other people may encourage you to simply move on and forget about your ex, I encourage you to keep your dream alive. If getting back together with your boyfriend or your husband is honestly what is going to make you happy then that is what you need to do. If the love that you once felt together was something unique and special then you shouldn't just throw it away. Don't' quit. Don't give up. You simply can't replace someone you love with any other human being.
The problem at hand though is what can you do right now to help to get you through the day? What can you do when you feel like your heart has been torn from your chest because you're just having a bad day or something has changed that makes you feel like you'll never be able to get your ex back? While being a little sad because you're away from the one you love is normal, what can you do when this grief starts to get in the way of you living your life and it becomes a problem?
Take a deep breath and acknowledge these feelings. Understand that these emotions and feelings are only there to try to help you. Our emotions either motivate us to do things or not do things based upon pain and pleasure. If we think that something is going to cause us pain then it's going to be difficult to motivate ourselves to do anything that will bring us closer to that pain. To overcome that pain avoidance reflex, we need to associate those same thoughts with pleasure.
For instance, you are depressed because you do want to get back together with your ex but you know that there might be a lot of pain associated with getting him back. He could reject you again. It might take a long time to get him back during which time you might have to deal with knowing that the man that you love is with someone else or dealing with his indifference. But if you can spend some time reliving the pleasant feelings about your relationship and trying to keep a positive attitude they you stand a very good chance of weathering the storm until he does come back to you.
Even though you're still going to have moments when you're going to want to cry, taking a few minutes to take a cleansing breath and stepping outside of yourself to realistically look at the situation can ease your emotional pain. Don't be afraid to dream. Don't give up on your dream or ever tell yourself that it's impossible. Ignore those that say that you'll never be able to get your ex back because this simply is not true. Know without a doubt that if you are patient enough and persistent enough and if you take care of yourself first that you really can have that relationship that you dream about with your ex. Live every moment as if your ex is going to knock on your door or come walking around the corner and one day it will come true. These methods work for greater things than simply getting your ex back. What makes you think that having the person who once loved you fall for you again is so impossible?
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