The Contacts And Relationships: A Commitment Problem

The Contacts And Relationships: A Commitment Problem

WHEN ACQUE TO PLEASE YOUR PARTNER

The commitment is undoubtedly the key to many of the problems we face. We like ours, so that only the road will do. And so arises the great problem of dating and relationships. If only we could fix it, then we would be better able to find common ground and work things out. I often hear people saying they will not compromise with which we can choose the date, what are their rules, which is acceptable for a couple and so on. It makes me sad, because who said they were so perfect anyway? Who said it was entitled to be so intense and demanding? They did and they have that right. The result is so dangerous though they may be unique in a long and happy in her personal life because they are simply too rigid. Done. 

I know some of you hate the idea of ​​commitment. After all, that seems to affect in the past has made some relationships have been difficult and hard times with people. Why compromise, it's your life after all. Very good point. You do not have to compromise at all. Not at all. The problem arises then in building relationships with new people. We may have a high level with our friends and we have higher standards to potential partners, but you can find perfection? Are you really perfect? Be honest with me, talk to me. Perfect in every way exactly what they are? Exactly! Well, now that I have your attention, let's look at the commitments. 

Here are six forms of engagement can be found in the output: 

1. Commitment to perfection
Oh yes, you have the perfect image of someone in your head and not only see her. You have an image built from the dreams and experiences and is willing to wait that long and do whatever. I have a surprise for you baby, life is not perfect and neither are people. Their idols are not perfect in his private life and neither do you. So why set such rigid rules about people who go so far.
If you are against the appearance of perfection, too prefect? If only attracted a certain type of appearance or behavior, then you can not argue with that, but requires that a person must be 6 feet instead of 5'11 "is a recipe for disaster leave says a lot about the lack perspective. I'm not asking anyone to compromise on what and who attracts, but I'm asking you to see with both eyes.
Once you move in the field of relationships is that people are far from perfect. No one who sees a person of the same after ten years as the way I saw the first 5 minutes of the meeting. That's because as we learn about someone from our perspective changes. Not that we like least, but the commitment and begin to accept people with their imperfections. If you can not accept this, it would be better to go with a relationship. 

2. Commitment expectations
How can you seriously expect to date? Do you expect to be beaten by Cupid's arrow every time you meet someone. Are you waiting for love at first sight? Do you expect that every day will lead to marriage? These are important questions because they govern your initial reaction to each new date, which govern how they behave on a date and govern what happens at the end of the day. Dating is about fun as much as the romance and commitment and accept that you can enjoy much more data. After being on 50 dates is likely to argue the point that they are entitled to expect that eventually find someone who can match. You are right to be frustrated and I know what you are feeling. The fact is that dating takes time to kiss some frogs to wait before meeting her prince. 

3. The commitment of the date
Getting too bad seriously affects performance and response at all times. No appointments can be enjoyed because of its severity and can get quotes fatigue. Not everyone you meet will be your perfect match, but can be bad people, not very nice and exciting, even sexy. Remember that opposites attract y. My advice is to relax and enjoy dating for what it is, meet new people. You certainly know when it is beaten by Cupid's arrow and not have to commit the perfect match, only to give up their expectations before you begin. Learn how to get pleasure from each new experience. 

4. Commitment in relationships
Being part of a team of two people means just that, be a team. Being a partnership means listening to both arguments, both sides of a case, both points of view. "Relationship", which means the word commitment. I think these days that a relationship has become too often a power struggle in a person is trying to get the upper hand, to dominate, to achieve their selfish objectives. The second part becomes subjugated and weakened and no longer. This is a shame that hides in the more modern relationships and I'm tired of seeing her.
A relationship is not a power struggle and both must be equal. If your partner likes to play power games and is attracted to him, have psychological problems which in itself can cause relationship problems further down the line. If they are unwilling to commit to a relationship, then ask yourself why you're with that person. Your partner does not exist only as part of their own support system. They have their own needs. 

5. Compromise on the little things
Always the little things that matter most. It may be the smallest of the things that matter to a person, such as leaving the toilet seat up, not put in order before going to bed, the bed do not call to say hello, do not buy flowers. On the other hand, these things may seem insignificant and unimportant at all. The point is that they are important and both should ensure that listening to your partner and learn what is important to them and what does not. It is not possible to be perfect I know, but you can listen and do the things that make your partner happy. In the same way we expect to do the same for you. So keep an eye on the little things in life. You may have to compromise their own routines to include them, but that's a small price to pay for happiness and love. 

6. Commitment to the result
Dating and relationships are open questions. Until you stop seeing someone, then there is no end, only the future. Commitment to its vision of being proactive and open minded. You may believe that true happiness only occurs when there is a loft apartment in downtown Manhattan as a whole or a yacht in the Greek island port and sailing the seven seas together. That's the beauty of ambition and dreams. But make sure that the dreams are shared.
I've seen couples split into retirement after many years together because his dream of retirement has never spoken or shared. The point is that, as a couple, your ambitions and goals and the future should be a shared vision from the beginning if they are really working. You have to be singing the same song and that means they have to be consistent from the beginning. You may both have to compromise first to reach that shared vision, but no less valuable.