Regrets Contact Home About The Above Dates

Regrets Contact Home About The Above Dates

A STUDY OF CITATION ERRORS AND LESSONS LEARNED

I decided to do a survey of good friends and know what kind of remorse when people had appointments. Regrets took many different forms in their responses varied, but thought it was interesting, as they often ask which date the outstanding issues we often forget to mention. As with many of my studies, the results are random, but are useful to indicate that we are not alone in the errors that occur in our dating lives.

Here follows is an impressive catalog of catastrophes appointments should take into account the lessons learned. 

1. First - dating a married person. Male or female makes no difference. In all versions of the story was the same, dating a married person was a complete disaster. Without prejudice to the lies, deceit, regret, deception and false promises, never asked anyone have a good outcome for their married affairs. This was a good example of how waste years waiting for someone than ever, the participation of your loved one with someone else and spending thousands of dollars in stolen moments and brief weekend, it was not the only person in your mind. Avoid like the plague unless you want to lose all the dignity you ever had. 

2. Amazingly not marrying your childhood sweetheart was number 2. Apparently, there are a lot of people who have spent years wishing that he had married the person of your dreams when you had the chance. Unfortunately, this often tends to be his childhood sweetheart and first love in college. By the time you are too young and there are many other fish in the sea. In recent years reference has been used as the minimum level required for the romance of potential partners and never find it. This leads to a sense of settling for second best. At the same time desire to start a girl or boy every year. 

3. Is to ask someone for a date when the offer was there. This is very good because it is the eternal sense "what if .." question. This tends to come off as a lament in a time when other things go wrong and you're fantasizing. What if he had asked her out. What if you had said yes at that time. What if he had married and had children. It seems you can not ask someone to leave a legacy long. Just look at the popularity of online meeting places. 

4. Not ending a bad relationship before. Yes many of us this list one. There are many of us who have entered into a relationship willingly, only to discover that our cost that the relationship was not all it could be. While the door was only there for many a reason I chose not to leave her alone. While perhaps a useful concept in itself it does none of us a service. The fact is that many of us have been in long-term relationships that were not good for us and for our partners. If only we had the courage at the moment. 

5. Contacts with the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Maybe for sex, appearance, business contacts or sympathy. It seems that there are plenty of people out there who have dated people for the wrong reasons and lived to regret it. This has to be balanced against hindsight. In retrospect, it is obvious that people who can not be dated, but many of us who went to the wrong person at the time and knew they were doing. There is no excuse. 

6. Putting your career first and waiting too long. Oh yes, this is a modern classic. Our society has a problem in which one third of all adults are now - and growing. The most common reason is that we have our first race, especially through the 20's and then start dating seriously, 30 is when you feel ready. The problem is that we are not as young as us, not as attractive as when we were 21 in many cases, our biological clocks are ticking at a deafening volume and the best catches have been snapped up. Many of us seem to wish that our love had resolved the previous life. Be warned. 

7. Letting someone who fell in love. I have no answers, but there were a couple of times in my studio and could be related to point 2. People in love are gone and seem to struggle to find an explanation. Too often, he lamented the decision very quickly only to find that the couple had refused to close the door and never allow again. Infidelity is the primary cause, or trapped in place. If you love someone stay with them faithfully appears to be the lesson. 

8. It is not the good person who could have been. Treat someone badly in a relationship always comes back against you if you are the culprit, however empowering it may have felt at that time. As we age we have a mental list that could have been better and I am very surprised at how many of us confess that could have been better people to our lovers. I'm not talking about physical violence, but all agree that does not exist in our society. Not just to be polite, kind, remembering birthdays and anniversaries, buying flowers, compromising, going on vacation and be romantic and spontaneous. We live and learn and later regret is clearly the message. 

9. Dumping someone in a cruel and evil. I've done and I had to do for me and I regret both happening. When young it was easy to love and leave and not think anything of it. When I grew up I had made to me by someone I loved and it broke my heart. I do not think anyone can be left in poor condition - with no explanation, no reason. One day is fine, the next day you're gone. Pour through email, text or phone and must be sins of my study shows that many of us regret doing just that.