Are You A Paranoid Boyfriend?

Are You A Paranoid Boyfriend?

Finally he decided to go for it with his latest gal. The one and are serious about taking your relationship to the next level. It is exciting and is interested in making it work.

But then something unexpected happens, the actions of his wife begins to feel uncomfortable by their commitment to you. If the clubs all night and flirt with every man who knows or releases are still talking about before, their suspicions were aroused and the levels of paranoia successful than ever thought possible.

All this raises the question: Are you or are you? And what exactly is going on here? I'll help you fix everything, and if it is time to go.

1 - She's a big flirt
Even when we're together, that blatantly talk to other guys. You're starting to feel afraid, but she does not see the damage. After all, she says it's only his outgoing nature. But the real reason?

Why?
With a little introspection, you might conclude that she is trying to tell you something. Perhaps you have been neglect or take for granted? Or maybe it's just his way of trying to exert control over you and jealous? Or ... maybe she is ready for the next harvest, and prepare to retire in the water.

What can you do?
Treat her like she did when they started out and try to make her feel special. This can rectify the situation, if the reason for his flirting is the lack of attention from you.

As for his control problems, if you really have an honest, reliable and serious, you should feel comfortable approaching her with their concerns openly. Reassure your child that is unique to you. Remember, she may be trying to make you jealous to ensure you always fight for it. If you have the energy to keep fighting is another story.

When to Worry?
• If there is no link with you.
• When you tell the other children she has taken.

2 - He keeps in touch with exes
Apparently, his girlfriend enjoy male company. Especially the men who used the "boyfriend tagged" before his arrival. Output cocktails, food and often "bump into each other" unexpectedly during the day. This can certainly be more than a little disconcerting. After all, it is difficult to answer the phone and listen to your questions about their former lovers.

Why?
An easy (and reassuring) answer might be that she just has a hard time breaking the ex-boyfriends, and a good person who hates to hurt them. See? Your girlfriend is an angel. Only one problem with that theory, all the damage that forgives her ex-boyfriends will come right on the shoulders of men.

The truth is harder to see that all her ex-boyfriends also serve as support for his prediction of the relationship you two are an item.

What can you do?
Being open and asked if she is still romantically interested in any (or all) of their ex-boyfriends. This can end their relationship soon, but if it does, it is probably better.

Or please go with her and one of his male friends so you can get to know him. After all, it is fair to give him the benefit of the doubt, if only to give or confirm their suspicions.

When to Worry?
• When you spend more time with them than with you.
• When asked if phone sex is cheating.

3 - He is always with his friends
At first he did not care much. After all, it gives you a chance to catch up on missed episodes Sopranos or hang out with friends and smoking cigarettes on the night of poker. However, that cheap thrill disappears when his wife is never home and always carousing with his friends to his girl. He said that to help clubs with friends in contact with children, but how involved the game? Let's face it, once its "wingwoman" rights are not really needed to be there until the last call?

Why?
Could it be that you have indicated their resistance to the bar scene after he was her boyfriend, knowing that this was something he liked to do?

Or could it simply be that this is what their friends and feel like the only way to stay active in their lives?

You may feel trapped and can only be forced to listen and reconnect with your wild side from time to time.

What can you do?
Time to go to all styles and profilin friend. From there with his wife and revelry. He wants to prove he can still hang on the bar and remove the fly dance moves. See how he reacts. If you are in the place of the original bar, the same round again and remember at the same time the charm again.

Or make a new game and invite some of your single friends so that everyone can play wingman / wingwoman and compare the accomplishments at the end of the night.

When to Worry?
• When set on two dates with friends ... and are not invited.
• If you notice you're writing your phone number on the back of the card before going from bar to bar with friends.

4 - Spends more time alone
Although it is normal that someone wants to be alone from time to time, your girl seems to prefer real-time (any time) with you. She has "only" time at the extremes for hours without saying that what he is doing and where.

Why?
The answer is easy and fast, can be misleading. But this is the worst. You may have more problems that need further investigation. She could be depressed by any number of things (work, family life, social, etc.) and not sure if you can talk to you about it. You may also feel that the relationship is moving too fast and we want to slow things down. However, it just may be that she is independent and needs a lot of "me" time.

What can you do?
Now is the time for a frank and direct. If you are depressed and / or stressed about something, you have to make her feel like she can say about it. As for men, this means you have to wonder if all goes well and be willing to listen (without judging) whether strip.

If she is simply an independent person who needs their space from time to time, may be encouraged to enjoy their time alone, but they give you something to look forward to the end of the day - Dinner is talking about the other days. She'll appreciate it more.

However, if you are having serious concerns that the aforementioned "so" is important to you find out about it as soon as possible. If she knows you are suspicious of her actions, if they begin to prove the guilt of overcompensation or lie about what you are doing.

When to Worry?
• If you spend more time apart than together.
• When you say you are only going to buy some milk (and insists on going solo) and returned three hours later.

5 - Do not know anyone
You've been dating for a while and think you're getting an idea of ​​what it is, but have not yet met their friends and family. Spending time together, but for some reason she is reluctant to let him into their lives beyond their relationship.

Why?
There may be some commitment problems going on here. It is possible that she has absolutely determined that fits your life. Are you marriage material, or simply an adventure? Or she may be afraid of getting too close to anyone, so it's hard to say the words, "this is my boyfriend, [fill in name here]."

What can you do?
Show interest in wanting to know the important people in your life. I suggest going out for drinks or dinner with the girlfriend who always speaks, or invite her over for a family dinner to show him you're ready for that step.

Also keep in mind that your unwillingness to bring friends or family may have more to do with them than you.

When to Worry?
• When you are invited to her birthday party.
• When you are invited to family gatherings, where his brothers present.

Worth staying there?
Do not panic if any of the above sounds familiar. His odd behavior may have nothing to do with you and could be due to personal problems with work, family and friends. Talk to her about it, you can find a stronger bond after communication.

However, if she is guilty of most of these and is inflexible and unwilling to change to alleviate his growing paranoia, can be a problem in their relationship: he. If your relationship is more stressful than it is satisfactory, then it might be time to start preparing his farewell speech.